Twin flame relationships are the most wonderful of experiences, yet they are also one the hardest to endure. Full of contradictions, entanglement, lessons, and the deepest love you’ll ever have. Generally speaking, Twin Flame relationships are usually temporary. You’ll feel as if you are tearing your own heart out, but you know if you stay together it will permanently scar and damage both of you. You need to know when to end a twin flame relationship.
What’s This Twin Flame Relationship Anyway?
You always know when you meet your twin flame. Even if you don’t recognize it as such. You meet a total stranger and within minutes you are laughing and flirting as though you have known them forever. There is no sense of time when you are with them. You feel as if they are looking into your soul. Nothing else matters. You can’t stop looking at them. You drink in every detail of their appearance and wonder if you can get close enough to smell their skin.
People will tear up their lives in order to be with their twin flame. Friends, family, job, current partner… all fall by the wayside in your determination to be with the one you love. It’s like your whole life was guided through circumstances that led you to that moment of meeting. You have never felt more relaxed with another person. You can say anything, share anything, reveal your deepest secrets and thoughts. And the amazing thing is, they feel the same way. You are fascinated by every detail of their life. The relationship is usually very physical and also very spiritual.
For more read What is a Twin Flame Relationship?
Why Can’t Twin Flames Stay Together Forever?
Sometimes they do. There’s nothing to say you can’t make a twin flame relationship work. But work is the operative word. As the relationship progresses through its inevitable stages both partners have to navigate a treacherous ocean of emotions. If you are able to reach a tranquil shore, then you’ll probably stay together forever. Most, though, have to let go long before then.
The Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship
There’s no ‘falling in love’ stage. It’s Boom! You haven’t fallen in love – you ARE love. It’s like nothing you ever felt before. Any time spent away from your love is time wasted. You are alive with anticipation before meeting up with them. This stage is when you feel you have met the missing piece of you. Together you are complete.
Then follows a blissful period which is the happiest time of your life. You are always smiling, you are the perfect couple. Other people can feel your connection when they are near you. You might call this the honeymoon stage.
Trouble begins. You might have your first disagreement. You can’t believe how it starts and how it escalates. Yet as soon as it is over, you are back together and it feels like home again. You’ll notice there are cycles in the relationship. Any periods of peacefulness are inevitably followed by tension which is then released by a huge fight.
It becomes too much, one of you cannot take the turmoil any longer, you have to get away from this endless cycle. The pain is too deep, the hurt takes longer to heal, you hate as much as you love. So you run. Or your partner does. One will always be ‘the runner’ and the other, ‘the chaser’. You run, he gets you back. It feels like coming home. It always does. Then it starts again and you feel betrayed.
You reach a point where you know that you can’t do this any longer. It’s like an infection that you can only cure by ripping off your arm. So you end it. Some twin flame relationships will survive the conflagraton. Tenaciously they battle on through the trauma and come out the other side – together.
So Why Do We Have Twin Flames?
Your twin flame has been with you all along. In many lives. You have met, broken up, stayed together over many life cycles. They are there to hold up a mirror to your soul. In them, you are. You learn so many lessons over the course of the relationship, from how to love unconditionally, how to forgive others and yourself, how to release and surrender. How to grieve, and finally move on.
Over each life cycle you advance spiritually. In some cycles you may not require the help of your twin, in others you need them there the whole time.
When to End a Twin Flame Relationship
There are signs that it’s time to let go and move on.
1. That feeling of rightness of being home, fades as trauma takes over.
2. There is coldness between you.
3. The running and chasing stops. You may have left but he no longer chases. Or vice-versa.
4. You have a strong inclination to let go of the relationship.
5. There is physical violence and verbal abuse.
6. You know you can only heal properly when you end it.
How to Say Goodbye To a Twin Flame
Firstly, know that you will never actually lose your twin flame. They will always be with you, in your heart and mind. Even if they pass away, they are right there. Some people will stay in touch for the rest of their lives. Others will never communicate in person again. You’ll be able to love another, the lessons you learned will be invaluable. But nothing ever compares to a twin flame.
Lessons to Take From a Twin Flame Relationship
You learned so much when you were together, yet you will learn even more when you part. You’ll go through the stages of grief, disbelief, hatred, forgiveness, acceptance and surrender. It may take years until you recognize that it was a twin flame relationship. It could take a long time to assimilate those soul lessons. When you can hold onto the good and let go of the bad, your soul will take a leap forward in understanding. Your twin flame was key in your transformation, they were instrumental in your spiritual journey as you were in theirs.
You may well end your twin flame relationship, but one thing you must know – you will meet again. The journey will continue.
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